Around morning, chopping some onions to make mince, I started thinking..
Being a young, inexperienced Mother is cool. It has certain pros attached to it that maybe a more wisely and mature mother might be unaware of. Of course, this is by no means a generalization. I admit Young mothers can be terribly reckless, we read about it all the time. But for me, it has been very lucrative.
A.I do the Science!
I admit I don’t have much experience. The most interactive I’ve been with a baby was Sofia, a mild-mannered two-year olds diaper change! I am lost on a number of occasions, specially, when my baby proceeds to give me the most unfathomable of situations to deal with. Knowing you’re ignorant can be a blessing. You strive that much more to excel in your weakness. I know I only got one shot bringing my baby up as healthy, confident and smart enough to know right from wrong. There is no reset button. I read, re-read and then, some more - Finding out the million perspectives on a situation before mixing up my own. It almost always works. The ‘wisely mother’ might not be so open to the new ideas surrounding Parenting & Motherhood. They think they know it all.
B. I remember being a Child..
Asad: Why is she going there again?
Fiz: umm.. Because she’s a baby?
Asad: She doesn’t listen, she’s spoiled!
(Fiz removes Eshaal from the laptop (Read, her drumming gear)
I can understand why she wants to go there. I remember being a curious one. Knowing how to empathize with your baby is so fruitful. I get less mad or upset. I know why she has to do what she has to do. Because, I remember.. Asad doesn’t. The ‘wisely mother’ might not remember the oh-so-important-strong-feelings-and-opinions she once had as a child. Her child might go through the same phases she did. I feel great knowing, come those teenage years, things will be a tad bit less testing (for I was one crazy, rebellious kid and I know that now!)
I think i get your point of view .... but still ... why can babies get away with the 'shes just a baby' line!
ReplyDeleteOh and love the baby blues cartoon! :D
ReplyDeletehmmm...thats definitely food for thought. Though from what iv observed in general, mums almost always 'remember' and 'do the science' when it comes to their first borns.By the time theyr raising their 3rd or 4th child, either they 'forget' or simply choose to reverse the rules of parenting theyv defined for themselves (though im yet to find out why that is)...could it be that they then evolve into the 'wisely mother' but by the that time what they preach is very much alien to the new young mothers?
ReplyDeleteI agree Aleena. our mothers did a great job bringing us up. Its not easy at all. Maybe by the 3rd child a parents time, patience and stamina reduces considerably. Or the thought it-worked-good-enough-for-the-other-two-why-bother.
ReplyDeleteMotherhood is a never-ending learning process. You teach some and you learn some. Babies can be amazing teachers! Its a joyous experience =)